Necessary Endings by Henry Cloud

I just finished Necessary Endings by Henry Cloud. When I finish a book, I generally type up notes in a system recommended by Michael Hyatt. Here are those notes. Enjoy!

Necessary Endings
Henry Cloud
Published: Feb 14, 2011 Read: Feb 21, 2011

*  For us to ever get to a new level or a new tomorrow, something has to end.
*  Until we let go of what is not good, we will never find something that is good.
*  Bring endings into the common language of your team
*  Normalize the idea of endings, so you can expect them rather than being surprised.
*  Need to prune if A) Good but not best B) Sick and not getting well C) Dead.
*  Positive is doing what is best and right for the business and for the people. This is not a NEGATIVE.
*  Always ask what season you are in.
*  Your life produces more buds than you can nurture. Come to grips with the truth you can only nurture so many.
*  Having an abnormally high pain and failure threshold keeps you from ending things.
*  Level 5 leaders are humble and fearless.
*  Confront the brutal facts and delusional attitudes.
*  Always invest primarily in the PERSON before anything else. Character is the future.
*  People. Knowledge. Energy. The three keys to believe in a better future.
*  When truth presents itself, the wise person sees the light, takes it in, and makes adjustments.
*  Jack Welch: Fix, Close, or Sell
*  For the foolish person, provide limits and consequences.
*  To move to create urgency and an ending, use the fear of the negative and the draw of the positive.
*  We have an incredible tolerance for pain and complacency. Need to get people to smell the smoke.
*  Play the movie forward in both directions, negative and positive.
*  Refuse to work with NONO people.
*  Put on actual funerals for endings. Let people grieve.
*  Your next step always depends on how well you are maximizing where you are right now and how ready you are to do what is necessary to get to the next place. And sometimes, that depends on ending some of what is happening today.


“Getting to the next level always requires ending something, leaving it behind, and moving on. Growth demands that we move on. Without the ability to end things, people stay stuck, never becoming who they are meant to be, never accomplishing all that their talents and abilities should afford them.” P. 7

“You have to know the standard you are pruning towards.” P. 23

“Sometimes, the best thing a leader or anyone else can do is to give up hope in what they are currently trying.” P. 26

“Great leaders make life and death decisions.” P. 71

“Hope is not a strategy.” P. 89

“The best predictor of the future is the past.” P. 93

“You need enough of a dose of energy to make it effecitve, and you need the right interval of time so the effects are not lost before the next bit of energy is infected.” 115

“You cannot deal with everyone in the same way.” 125

“Deadlines focus energy like a laser.” 164

“If we aren’t measuring, we don’t know.” 170

“You are able to exercise the right choice because you are not overly attached to having it work out a particular way.” 176

“You have to be able to face losing some things you might want in order to be free to do the right thing.” 177


1.  Make endings a normal part of our world at Ground Zero.

2.  Don’t become attached to having it work out a particular way.

3.  Use the fear of the negative and the draw of the positive for better futures.

4.  Set frequent deadlines to get things done.

4 thoughts on “Necessary Endings by Henry Cloud

  1. Hey John,

    Where did you learn the book review system by Michael Hyatt? It looks like a great thing to do.


  2. Dude. I can’t find the link. Essentially he tries to type up a 1-2 page document (NOT MORE THAN 2 PAGES) with…

    1. Key Insights
    3. Application (What he’s going to do because of reading the book).

    I’ve been doing this for a while now. I underline, then go back and type up the things I underlined (or most of it) and then type up places where I write Q next to it. I used to keep like 3-4 pages of this, but now I boil it down to 1-2 at most. It’s hard to keep it short, but awesome to be able to refer back to.

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  4. Wise are those who learn that this bottom line doesn’t always have to get their top priority.
    We are not necessarily one who have to be prodded. In reality, if anything, I am the prod.

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