At Ground Zero, we had our GZ Parent Invite Night! We had almost 275 parents attend across all the campuses so they could experience GZ, get to know their student’s small group leader, and hear a message about how they can get along with their junior high child.
The message centered on Ephesians 6:1-4:
“Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right. “Honor your father and mother”—which is the first commandment with a promise— “so that it may go well with you and that you may enjoy long life on the earth. Fathers, do not exasperate your children; instead, bring them up in the training and instruction of the Lord.”
As junior high students transition in adolescence, we are no longer parent using the power and position advantage. The title and size we all hold over our children won’t work like it used to work now that they are moving into adulthood.
Each of our lives are made up of experiences and choices. The more we focus parenting using the power and position advantage over the experiences and choices of our adolescents, the more we will exasperate them. Instead, we need to begin to shift our parenting focus from the experiences and choices department into investing in a real relationship with them.
Frankly, this is how God parents us – in a relationship! And as parents, we must begin to parent our adolescents like God parents us, and that’s by developing a real relationship with them. As Andy Stanley, Pastor at North Point Church says, “When it matters most, the quality of your relationship with your children will determine the weight of your influence.”
To practically conclude, we gave away little cards that had conversation starters on one side and ideas for adventure on the other side. The two ways to invest in their relationship is to talk to each other and break up the daily routine.
We are praying for this relationship between parents and children to grow stronger and for influence to be maintained through the relationship they develop through these challenging adolescent years!
For more parenting resources, please click here (the parents’ page for Ground Zero)